How to Cope with a Breakup: From a Licensed Therapist
Navigating Breakups and Healing from Heartbreak: Finding Your Strength After a Relationship Ends
Breakups are HARD. Whether it’s the end of a long-term relationship or a short but intense connection, the pain of a breakup can feel overwhelming. Suddenly, you’re left with so many questions, emotions, and uncertainty about what comes next. I want you to know that you're not alone—and this heartbreak can be the beginning of a beautiful journey of growth, healing, and rediscovery.
As a licensed therapist who specializes in helping women navigate transitions, I’ve seen firsthand how powerful it can be when you take the time to truly process your emotions and learn from your experiences. If you’re coping with a breakup right now, let’s talk about how you can find your strength, heal, and rebuild your self-esteem, all while rediscovering the amazing person you are.
Takeaway: Heartbreak doesn’t define you. It’s just a chapter in your story.
A breakup may mark the end of a relationship—but it also marks the beginning of a new chapter where you get to focus on you.
1. Allow Yourself to Feel (Yes, All of It!)
First things first: it’s okay to feel all the feels. Heartbreak brings up a mix of emotions—sadness, anger, confusion, and even relief. And guess what? All of those feelings are valid.
Don’t rush yourself. Cry if you need to. Journal. Talk to a friend. Go for a drive with your favorite playlist. The more you allow your emotions to come up and move through you, the more you’ll create space for healing.
2. Use Therapy to Heal and Grow
Therapy isn’t just for crisis—it’s a powerful space to process your breakup in a supported, non-judgmental way. Working with a therapist can help you:
Understand what you want and need in future relationships
Explore patterns or red flags you may have missed
Rebuild your self-esteem and sense of identity
Learn tools to navigate emotional triggers or loneliness
If this sounds like what you need, reach out to schedule a free consultation today.
3. Rebuild Your Self-Esteem
It’s natural to feel shaken after a breakup. Maybe you’re questioning your worth or replaying what went wrong. Let me remind you: you are still worthy.
One of the most important steps post-breakup is coming home to yourself. Ask: What makes me feel confident? What brings me joy? What have I forgotten that I loved before the relationship?
Do more of that.
4. Rediscover Who You Are (Outside of the Relationship)
Long-term or not, relationships can shape a lot of your daily routine and identity. Now’s your chance to reconnect with you. Take a class. Change your space. Journal about who you’re becoming.
Ask yourself: Who am I when no one else is influencing me?
5. Lean on Your Support System
You don’t have to do this alone. Let your people show up for you. That might mean texting a friend when the sadness hits, planning a weekend with loved ones, or just having someone sit with you during a quiet evening.
Support doesn’t have to fix things—it’s about not carrying it all by yourself.
6. Embrace Your Strength and Resilience
You are stronger than you think. This pain won’t last forever, and you are already surviving it. Every day you wake up, take a deep breath, and keep going—you are proving to yourself that healing is happening.
This chapter is just one part of your story.
7. Give Yourself Time (There’s No Deadline on Healing)
You might feel pressure to “move on” or pretend you’re fine—but real healing takes time. There’s no set timeline, and no wrong way to do it.
Celebrate the small wins. They matter more than you think.
Ready to Heal with Support?
If you’re feeling stuck or unsure how to move forward, you don’t have to do it alone. I offer therapy for women navigating breakups, self-esteem challenges, and life transitions. Let’s process it together, so you can feel grounded, empowered, and more like yourself again.
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You deserve to feel whole again.
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Jade Staubs, LCSW
Licensed Therapist | J Therapy | Serving Women in Florida
Hi, I’m Jade, therapist based in Florida. Your biggest supporter.
Therapist for anxious, overwhelmed women in Florida
and Founder of J Therapy. You’re in the right place.
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